Courtship is a prelude to marriage. For a Christian to have a successful courtship that will lead to a successful marriage, there is need to focus on Godly principles as pointed out in the scriptures rather than indulging in fleshly romantic desires. This courtship advice discusses a few things that Christian singles should do during courtship to lay good foundation for their home.
Know Each Other
Courtship is a time to know each other’s character, strength, weaknesses, likes and dislikes. It is essential you develop close friendship and companionship at this period (Proverbs 17:17). Discuss challenges and successes.
Be Truthful, Open and Honest
and dishonesty are some of the major causes of divorce. The foundation
of Christian marriage should be built with precious stones of truth,
honesty and openness (Philippians 4:8). God hates lies and dishonesty
and so He will not bless any relationship that is build on them.
One important thing you should do is to talk about your past relationship. Any partner that cannot accept you with past is probably not for you. Discuss it and be sincere about it.
Discuss Religious Differences
important thing you must find out during courtship is your spouse’s
Christian belief and commitment. The scripture has instructed us not to
yoke with unbelievers, so it becomes your responsibility with the help
of Holy Spirit to find out about your spouse personal conviction.
Discuss what you believe sincerely. Don’t be afraid of whether he or she will leave you because of you faith. If your spouse shows lackadaisical attitude towards God’s word, church service, and Christian faith, beware. It’s better to quit than to be trapped in everlasting sorrow.
Discuss and Plan Your Future Together
and planning your future together is another courtship advice you must
take seriously. The person you are courting today is the one you will
live your life with until death do you part, so it is essential that you
discuss and agree on plans for your future (Amos 3:3).
Starting with the wedding, discuss and agree on how you both want it to go; talk about the scale and the resources to finance it.
Discuss and agree on where you will both live after your wedding. If both of you are not living in the same town discuss and agree on who will relocate. Also talk and agree on which church both of you will be attending after wedding.
Invite Jesus to Your Courtship
of the wise things to do during Christian courtship and marriage is to
get Jesus involved. Remember what he did at the marriage in Cana (John
To get Jesus involved, study the bible together, pray together and commit your courtship and marriage into the hand of God. Seek counsel from your pastor or from a good Christian counsellor.
Prayer is an important aspect of Christian courtship. The devil will always want to fight everything that comes from God. If your marriage emanates from divine revelation from God, beloved, you need a lot of prayers because Satan will want to work against it. Whether you divinely receive from God or not, prayer must still forms important aspect of your courtship. Prayer can help you to avoid temptation (Matthew 26:41). Prayer has no substitute. So both of you need to find time to always pray together.
Finally, don’t forget to get your parent involved. It is essential you get parental consent and blessings before you go ahead to plan (Ephesians 6:1-3). If this is proofing as a challenge then seek the face of God in prayers and seek counsel from mature Christian friends. No matter the obstacles, do not rush, be patient and if really it’s the will of God, every hidden thing will become clearer and things will eventually work out for your good. But remember, be patient because there is a time for everything (Ecclesiastes 3:1).
Thanks for reading through this Christian courtship advice. I pray that our Lord Jesus Christ will perfect everything concerning your marriage in Jesus name (amen).
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